Fear of the dentist..My 13 year old girls story!!

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Hello lovelies, welcome back to my page. So I’ve got a bit of an issue when my daughter was in my tummy I was told there was a high chance she would have spina bifida. I got tests done and I was so incredibly lucky to be told her spine was ok but she still might have it in her hip bones and legs as she was growing up.Once she turned around two and had all her baby teeth she got tested and X-rays and I was told that it had affected her not only in her bones but her tooth development too and some of her big teeth hadn’t formed in fact some where just little nubs not even teeth at all and I would have to deal with this as she grew older.

Well that day has come she is now 13 and not only do we have missing teeth to deal with we also have the total fear of the dentist. I’m not talking about “oh I don’t like the dentist” or a little anxiety, I’m talking full on FEAR an actual phobia! She is absolutely petrified of anything like that even passed out at the opticians and passed out a few times before the dentist even looked in her mouth.

It’s come to the point in her life where she is growing up and is self conscious about her looks and what other people think (teenagers are assholes!!) she won’t smile or laugh in front of people. She won’t even smile in or get her photograph taken and it is heartbreaking that I can’t help her.

Today we had her third appointment with the local children’s dentist with the nhs and they were absolutely fantastic with her they completely made her feel calm and that she was in control of everything going on. I can’t thank them enough for helping us the way they do. I can already tell that she is more relaxed she lets them look, take X-rays and other things without even blinking.

The unfortunate thing about not having certain teeth is that she will need a small plate to replace the teeth that she should have and another unfortunate thing is that she will have to get a few of the teeth she does have removed to fit this plate. Now this is a huge thing she can’t even get a filling done but they completely understand and thankfully they will be able to put her to sleep to get everything done at once so she doesn’t have to go through a ton of treatment over and over again.

Today we went in and I was shitting myself I didn’t know how she was going to react because she had to get a couple of tiny fillings and two mould’s of her mouth to be able to have the plates ready when her big treatment was going on.

Well she totally surprised me and them, she went in sat no problem got FOUR fillings and two moulds!! I couldn’t believe it!! I sat with the sweat dripping down my back with fear she was going to freak out but she didn’t my baby stayed calm and got everything she needed done! Now we’re waiting for the big treatment appointment but I couldn’t be anymore proud of my girl! She is the girl who freaks out, passes out, won’t even enter the door of the dentist even if she’s in pain and here she is ready to go get her ‘new teeth’ as we call them.

I for one can’t wait for this day because I know it’ll give her every bit of confidence she’s lacking in life and give my baby girl her smile back!


Did you know almost half of UK adults have a fear of the dentist, according to the Oral Health Foundation.

• 12% of these suffers from an extreme dental anxiety.

• Women are more likely to suffer from extreme dental anxiety than men.

• Visiting the Dentist is ranked number one (22%) for making people nervous, even more popular than heights (19%).

How to identify whether you are one of those people who systematically experience this type of anxiety?

A simple way to discover this , is by asking the following questions:

• Have you avoided dental and/or oral medical treatment because of your fear?

• Have you carried on far longer with pain in your tooth or an infection because of your fear of attending the dentist?

• Do you have an overwhelming fear when you think about attending an appointment at the dentist?

• If you hear a dental drill sound, does this cause you a very high level of anxiety?

• Have you had this fear for some time, following a difficult experience in childhood with the dentist?

If  you replied YES to the most of the questions, then you are affected by dental phobia.

Facts about dental fears

• Almost half of UK adults have a fear of the dentist.

• 12% of these suffers from an extreme dental anxiety.

• Women are more likely to suffer from extreme dental anxiety than men.

• Visiting the Dentist is ranked number one (22%) for making people nervous, even more popular than heights (19%).

If you are aware of having a dental phobia but unable to overcome it on your own, do not hesitate to reach out for dental phobia certified professionals in your area, who will be able to help you.

You can also request an information on the NHS sedation clinics in your local area.

Whatever option you choose, it should make you feel comfortable and at ease during your regular dental check up.

Thank you for reading our story my girl is being very brave and wanted me to share to help others who feel like her to show you can do it!!

Kimberly & Zoe (13) xo

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