Hello lovelies, welcome back to my page. For years, I’ve wondered how others make parenting look so easy. They all look so happy and perfectly, spotless looking all beautiful all of the time. It has dawned on me that social media is like an imperfection filter. Any flaws we have or moments of unhappiness in our lives are simply filtered out before we hit that share button.
Our timelines are full to bursting with happiness. Beautiful shots of our kids on beaches, family trips, selfies on sofas, posh meals out, loved up couples and happy family times that rightly deserve a like and a comment. All the good bits we love to share.
This is, of course, only natural. We always hit delete on the photos that give us four chins and make us look like shrek. Or those where our children look anything other than cute and spotlessly clean. We share statuses reflecting good news, good friends, good times.
But what is it that lies beneath? What about all the other times? I don’t mean the ‘I’m so pissed off right now’ cryptic statuses that wind everybody up (if you’re not going to share why you are ‘absolutely fuming’ then don’t bother telling us all, just a thought) or posting that you’re in the hospital and not sharing why….please don’t you’re just attention seeking and everyone can see it!!
I mean the everyday parts of normal life. For every nice shot of my life I know I have ten more that should never see the light of day (for the love of god please don’t post by accident kim!! ). For every ‘this little sweetie pie got me up at 6am’ status there are ten ‘holy shit, this is bluddy hard work, someone pass the wine’ thoughts underneath. We always seem to share the perfect airbrushed version, the Instagram edit, the perfect selected statuses. The original photos, the days we would sell a kidney to have some child free time and the mundane everyday statuses are the real ‘news feeds’ that go unseen.
Since i started sharing my own story amongst friends and people on social media they have also shared with me their own frustrations and largely felt that it has simply not been okay to share moments of difficulty or boredom or frustration when everybody else is coping so well or seems to be on the outside in case they are frowned upon or made to look like they’re not coping with their life.
I will however continue to use Instagram (with filters) and periodically pose my girls for photos, and tell you when I am so very happy and proud. But I will also try to balance it out with the other stuff because a montage solely of the best bits is not who I really am.
If you are having a bad day (or week) just remember that your Facebook timeline or Twitter feed should come with a disclaimer. You may feel like everybody else has the life you want but in reality, they may not even always have the life they want.
Social media is definitely not real life just remember no one is perfect.
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