Hello lovelies, welcome back to my page as you may know by my previous posts I suffer from bipolar disorder and anxiety disorder with agoraphobia and become quite reluctant in facing my fears I have in fact gotten to the point I avoid them at all costs which isn’t good. I have made a promise to myself this week that from this day onwards each week I will face one fear I have every week until I no longer fear that certain thing like going outside myself or getting myself a haircut sounds simple right?! Not with anxiety it’s not but I will try not just for me but for my daughters too.
I read an article recently by Ivan Stefanov regarding tips to make you mentally stronger and thought that I would share them with you. Apparently there are 7 genuine ways to become mentally stronger. All of them I will try and hope that each tip will boost my mental health.
So here we go:
1. Face your fears
Although this may seem simple – it’s not, it’s fucking gruelling. It takes a lot of courage to stand up and confront your fears. But it’s totally worth it. Almost every positive change I have attracted in my life I owe to fighting my fears. It doesn’t even matter if you slay your fear right away. What matters is having the guts to try at it.
2. Take cold showers.
Did you know cold showers bring numerous benefits to your body? They give you energy, stabilize blood pressure, speed post-workout recovery, boost the immune system, help with depression, help with weight loss and also combat stress.
But apart from that their best benefit is letting you test your will. Every single day you pour that cold water over your body your comfort evaporates and you mentality will grow stronger as well as your body.
3. Go fall in love and let your heart be broken.
This one is a little bit odd I know and I’m not the one for falling in love in fact I’m totally opposed to falling in love because I’ve been hurt so many times in the past. You don’t exactly go and fall in love whenever you want. Love is not a vodka or a glass of wine that you drink at the pub. What I mean is whenever it comes, don’t hesitate, jump and fall for that person as hard as you can. When you part ways it will hurt like hell but once you get over it you will be MUCH stronger this I know because after every breakup I’ve hurt like hell but because of it it’s made me stronger and not willing to just put up with anything anymore.
4. Get out of your comfort zone (do something crazy)
I am not a psychologist. I’m not sure if my advice is scientifically backed up but it is definitely effective. Now when I see or do something crazy, don’t rob a supermarket or a bank, neither do I sell drugs. Instead, go and engage in an awkward conversation with someone on the street. If that is too much for you, start small. Try a new sport, taste some new food or go to a social event. The result of all these activities will leave your mentality strengthened and fresh.
Although meditation sits at number 5 in the list, it’s not less powerful than any of the other suggestions. In fact, it may be the best exercise for mental toughness. The main benefit of meditation, you probably already know – it makes you calmer. This may not seem like a big thing but it is actually the cornerstone of mental strength. A man/woman who is peaceful is also more focused, productive, vital, pleasurable for others, social and confident. This I can’t wait to try out for myself.
6. Learn about the art of stoicism.
I know that some of you are not a fervent fan of using books and philosophies when it comes to making a big change in life. Action is way more powerful. However, finding out about stoicism has really boosted my mentality. So let me give you the main lessons:
- You have power over your mind – not outside events. Don’t focus on the things beyond your control.
- Live every day as if it were your last. You never know when the moment of death will come.
- Food should not be a source of pleasure
- Failure is natural; regret is foolish
- Don’t waste your time on gossip, political problems, other people or anything that is neither in your control nor in your business.
7. Accepting yourself
This one is surely the hardest to achieve. Most people live their whole life in resistance to their true self I hate the way I look or what if they don’t like me?. They fight with the thoughts, actions, beliefs and failures they project and this creates a lot of unhappiness. Don’t be that person, accept all that comes out of you and be peaceful about it. Your ego will always try to create some kind of problem, no matter how perfect your life is. This may be in the form of an affirmation: “I’m not good enough!” “I am not pretty, smart, rich enough!” The only way to remove it is by embracing it all and giving yourself 100% pure love without any judgment. That’s the only road to real happiness and mental strength. So every day I am going to look in the mirror and repeat ten times ” I love myself, I am a strong independent woman and I look beautiful” every time I wash my hands or go to the loo I will repeat this.
I hope you found that of interest and helpful I know I did. So sorry about the post not being the happiest or funniest one but I had to share my life and what i am going through or else I wouldn’t be happy I’m an open book and not afraid to admit I struggle with mental health issues. I hope that maybe someone can take something from this post just like I have and if it helps even one person it’s totally worth it.